My dear sister, I want to speak to you heart to heart. I know what it is like to feel pulled in many directions, trying to balance responsibilities, dreams, and expectations. We live in a world that constantly tells us to chase success, recognition, beauty, or relationships. These things can bring moments of joy, but deep inside you may still feel something missing. That empty place inside cannot be filled with applause, money, or even the love of people.
Only God can fill it. To be a woman after God’s heart is to choose Him above everything else. It is to say, “Lord, I need You more than I need any of these things.” When you put Him first, everything else falls into its right place.
What It Means to Be After God’s Heart
Being after God’s heart is not about being perfect. It is about pursuit. Look at David. The Bible calls him a man after God’s own heart. He was not without flaws. He failed, he sinned, and at times he made terrible choices. Yet he always returned to God with humility. What set him apart was not his perfection but his passion for God.
As women, we can carry that same heart. A woman after God’s heart is one who seeks Him honestly. She is not afraid to pour out her emotions before Him. She does not pretend to be strong when she is weak. She brings her tears, her joys, and her questions to His presence.
She is also a woman who trusts God fully. Like Mary, the mother of Jesus, she says, “Let it be to me according to Your word,” even when God’s plan interrupts her own.
And finally, she is a woman who obeys Him humbly. Not because she fears punishment, but because she loves Him deeply.
Why Relationship Matters More Than Works
Many women think God will love them more if they do more. So they fill their lives with activities, hoping He will notice. They serve, they give, they work hard, yet inside they feel tired and unfulfilled.
Do you remember Martha and Mary? Martha was busy serving Jesus, running around, making sure everything was perfect. Mary, on the other hand, simply sat at His feet and listened. Jesus said Mary had chosen the better part. Why? Because God values your heart more than your hands.
I remember a season in my own life when I was overwhelmed. I had many responsibilities and a longing for affirmation. Anxiety followed me everywhere. Then I made one simple decision. I began setting aside time each morning just to sit with God. I did not come with a list of requests. I just wanted to be with Him. Slowly, peace began to flood my heart. Worry melted away. My thoughts became clear. Doors began to open in ways I could not have arranged on my own. That is what intimacy with God does.
Women in the Bible Who Walked with God
Hannah – The Woman Who Prayed
Hannah was mocked for her barrenness. Her husband’s love could not ease the pain. Her rival’s words cut her deeply. But she ran to God. She poured out her soul in prayer. That prayer moved heaven, and God gave her Samuel.
Lesson: A woman after God’s heart fights her battles in prayer.
Esther – The Woman Who Chose Courage
Esther had beauty, but her strength came from her faith. When her people faced death, she turned to fasting and prayer. Then she risked her life before the king. Because of her intimacy with God, courage rose within her. She saved her nation.
Lesson: A woman after God’s heart does not bow to fear.
Mary – The Woman Who Believed
Mary’s entire future was changed by God’s word. She could have said no. Instead, she believed. She trusted God’s plan even though it was costly.
Lesson: A woman after God’s heart chooses trust even when she does not understand.
The Woman at the Well – The Woman Redeemed
This woman had failed relationships and lived with shame. Yet Jesus chose to meet her at the well. He gave her living water. She believed and ran to tell others. She became a voice for the gospel.
Lesson: A woman after God’s heart is not defined by her past. She is renewed by His love.
The Danger of Neglecting Intimacy
The children of Israel saw giants and called themselves grasshoppers. They measured themselves by their own strength instead of God’s. Many women do the same today. They compare themselves with others and feel small. They worry about not being enough.
But look at David. He saw the same giant, yet he called Goliath “an uncircumcised Philistine.” He did not focus on himself but on God. That is the difference intimacy makes. When you stay close to God, you see your battles through His strength.
Neglecting intimacy leads to anxiety, emptiness, and confusion. But when you draw near to God, you walk in peace, clarity, and strength.
How to Build Relationship with God
- Seek Him First
Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Begin your day with Him. - Talk to Him Personally
Do not only pray for things. Share your heart. Tell Him about your fears, joys, and hopes. - Read the Word with Love
See the Bible as God’s love letter to you. Let every page draw you closer to His heart. - Worship Everywhere
Worship is not only singing in church. It is a lifestyle. Worship in your home, your car, and your workplace. - Walk in Obedience
True love is shown in obedience. A woman after God’s heart chooses His ways even when they are hard. - Stay Humble
God gives grace to the humble. Pride pushes Him away, but humility draws Him close.
I believe with all my heart that God is raising women in this generation who are after His heart. Women who will not be trapped by chasing approval, beauty, or success. Women who will be known for their intimacy with God.
A woman after God’s heart influences her family, her workplace, and her community. Her children see her praying. Her friends feel God’s love through her words. She carries peace wherever she goes. She becomes a living testimony that only God can satisfy.
My dear friend, God is not looking for your performance. He is looking for your heart. He is not waiting for you to be perfect. He is waiting for you to draw near.
Be like Mary at the feet of Jesus. Choose His presence over busyness. Choose intimacy over distraction. Choose to be a woman after God’s heart.
My Prayer for you
Lord, I pray for every woman reading this. Give her a hunger for You above all else. Heal the places in her heart that have been broken by fear, rejection, or disappointment. Fill her with courage, peace, and joy. Make her a woman after Your heart. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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